Nonfiction writing

This week I've turned to developing a proposal for my nonfiction book - Dubious Grief. I picked up a book - Death's Door - written by the literary critic Sandra Gilbert. I'm most interest in what she wrote in Part 1 of the book - since it contains personal writing about the death of her husband. Several ideas she presents have affirmed my own thoughts: 1. when we lose our spouse, we often feel we just want to be dead also - this is not suicidal, we just simply want to be with our loved one; 2. in order to come to terms with the death, we need to acknowledge the irreversibility of our loss before we can move on.